Writing about pleasure did not come easy to me then, and I had to go for a walk before rereading that blog post; I will understand if you do so, too. I get it. However, I would like to say that I have gotten better, but I am not in a position to blow my own trumpet, hehe; someone does that for me, and as such, my utterances of that would be self-gratifying and biased. But for argument’s sake, let’s read the story in question, shall we?
Here’s a link to it: What The Hell?
Okay, first of all, looking back at whatever the hell that was, I knew nothing about girls and women. Remember that scene of Jon Snow and Ygritte (I was over the moon knowing that she’s called Leslie!) where she tells him that he knows nothing? Well, at that point in time, I was Jon Snow. Also, side note, while we’re in Westerosi territory, I have read and finished Fire & Blood and Dunk & Egg in two and a half weeks! The subsequent seasons were years away, and I can say that I am not that patient of a man. However, I know everything that will happen, and GRRM was right on his blog: killing Maelor that early in The House Of The Dragon was a rushed decision, and it means that they’ll not follow through with the source material, but with GoT live action, when did they ever to begin with?
I read a book on writing by Kyle Belote that men and women write about sex differently. He emphasized that “Most of the time, though not always, you can tell who wrote a scene, a male or female author, small tells a reader can pick up on. The perfect scene would be written in a manner where the reader cannot discern who wrote the scene. Male authors tend to focus on visual aspects because men are visual and physical creatures. They also focus on how something feels or how they are touched, the physical pleasure. Female authors tend to be more in touch with the other senses, smells, and emotions. A female friend—who also happens to be a writer—once told me women want senses overload and to escape their head.” To the veteran writers and readers, is this true? If not, then what the hell is true?
From Me to You.

I have but one wish for all the October babies — may your Ugali never stick to the sufuria, and your avocado to always come from a caring home to a well-yearned-for plate. May your back never hurt unless your guts are being reassigned, and all the smut you read edge you to orgasm. And, of course, you shall (underline MANDATORY) always climax!
What are you waiting for if you haven’t subscribed to my blog? If you have, please share with all smut readers you know – I want to hear their honest opinions! Also, Hokusai was a freak just like me! He might’ve seen waves on the sea, but also several on a woman’s body!
Have you not had enough of my stories? Here’s my previous one, where I wrote about how hard it is to live without someone for the first time in a very long time: I won’t tell you I miss you, but…
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Yes it is true! A women does needs sensory overload. I believe when a female writer writes, they incorporate the mood and the steps . If it’s a kiss, they say how it first felt when the lips touched, get lost in explaining the feeling of the touch, paint out the colour explosion in their brain. The scent of the guy and the movements. Another different is how male writers explain touch, they explain it like plainly. They just state where they touched . A female writer would give something more intense, something like this ,
“He traced the arc of my hipbones, lingering at the edge of my ***. My nightdress had become hitched around my waist, but I did not care. I hooked my legs around his, running my feet down the hard muscles of his calves. He breather my name onto my chest, one of his hands exploring the plane of my torso, rising up to the slope of my boobs( for some reason I can’t write the word you thought I was gonna write😂) I trembled anticipating the feel of his hand there, and his mouth found mine again as his fingers stopped just below….His kissing was slower this time _gentler. The fingertips of his other hand slipped beneath my waist, and I sucked in a breath.
That’s my two cents on your research. Tell us in another blog what you find out😂😂and use in part two Joyce and Percie’s story. It was a good read. I look forward to what you will do now as Jon Snow 2.0
Thank you for this!
I believe I am always learning, and I will incorporate your ideas, for sure!
Of course, there is a part two, just be on the lookout!
Now that is a well thought out comment .
For a minute a gasp escaped my lips.
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what did I just read .Well, the best scenes are a woman written by a woman and a man written in woman .
There are some good scenes written the other way; ones that’ll be written by me😂😂